How do you decide to name the child if the parents have different last names?

Give the child the mother's last name? The father's last name?





What if the parents are married but kept their names? What if they are NOT married?

How do you decide to name the child if the parents have different last names?
In either situation, the choice is completely up to the parents.





If the parents are married with different last names, I think it is more traditional to give the child the father's last name. This would also be a situation in which you might want to hyphenate. You could also give the child the mother's last name as a second middle name (something like Emily Grace Anderson Jones. Of course, if the mother kept her last name because the father's last name was something AWFUL, then give the child the mother's last name, please!





If the parents are not married, I think it's more traditional to give the child the mother's last name. A lot of parents choose not to do this, though, especially if the father and the mother are still dating or if the father plans to be very involved in the child's life. If I were in that situation and the father of the baby were around, I would probably give my child the father's last name. If I had any doubts about him sticking around, though, the baby would probably get my last name. This would also be a good situation in which to consider a hyphenated last name.
Reply:Usually if I wanted to use both last names, I would name the baby with the mother's name as a middle name and the father's name as the last name. I would not hyphenate them. I would do the same if each parent was keeping their original birth last name whether married or not.





If the father was definitely not going to be in the picture, then I would use the mother's last name. If I wanted the father's name in there, then I would definitely put the father's name as the middle name.





As a mother, it is your choice!
Reply:If I was in this situation this is what I would do:


Example:


Baby=Addison(First Name)


Mother=Johnson(Lastname)


Father=Wray(Lastname)


I would call the baby Addison Johnson-Wray.


This is what most people do, or they just use the fathers name. If the father is no longer caring for the child though many stick with the mothers surname.


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Reply:well if they have different last names just put the mothers last name first and then the fathers last name
Reply:Most give it the fathers last name.


If the father is out of the picture then the mothers last name would be good.


If your married but kept your names you can do something like Smith-Jones.
Reply:Always give the child the Father's last name.


If you wanted to use both - you can hyphenate the 2 last names, using the Mother's last name first. For instance:





Dad: John Jones


Mom: Jane Smith


Baby: James Smith-Jones
Reply:I gave my daughter her father's last name, but I regret it now. If I could change it, I would give her my own last name instead. FYI - I am not married and wasn't at the time.
Reply:My mum had 2 children with a man named Jason Cox.





They got married and the 2 kids were called Abigail Cox %26amp; Gabriella Cox.





My mum got together with my dad, Mark Hunter, they didn't get married and when they had me they gave me my mothers last name (which has always stayed at Cox) to make things easier for me, because people would ask why I had a different surname etc.





If you no your going to stay with your husband/boyfriend, give the baby his last name, if not, give the baby your own!





But also see which last name flows along with the first name.














P.S (My name is Crystalle, but my nickname is Crissy!)








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Reply:you could do the hyphen thing (which is what I'd do) or pick one from a hat=)If not married, I wasn't with my oldest son, I gave him my name cuz i knew no matter what he would always be with me!It turned out, i married his dad when he was1 but divorced him when he was 2 I am still very happy w/ my decision and he is 15 now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:technically you usually give the child the mothers maiden name but then when you all get married you would change the babys last name. but you need to talk it over with boyfriend
Reply:I don't really konw, go to ask.com
Reply:traditionally a baby is given his father's last name.





it sort of depends who has the coolest last name.





i like how people are given children of married parents or i suppose even unmarried both parents' names. like hyphenated.
Reply:If parents can not decide, legally the child will have two last names, the order of the names alphabetically
Reply:Personally, I'll be using my last name for the baby. He'll be on the birth certificate, but it's me who's giving birth, taking he or she to the docs appointments, to first day of nursery, school etc etc.





If at some point we got married in future, then there's still the option of the child's name being changed. I just don't see the point in giving the baby his name, just because it's traditional, I think it's easier for him/her to have my name.
Reply:Married, the child gets the husband last name


The wife, at school, can use her married name to make life easier for the child


A lot of working mom's, use their last name at work, keep everything in their last name


When the child is in school, they use their married last name for the child





Not married


You can do any of the five


1. First middle your last


2. First middle his last


3. First your last, his last


4. First Middle yours-his last


5. First Middle his-yours last








Any of the above are right


You and the baby father should agree on one
Reply:If they're married with separate names, flip a coin :)


Otherwise, the babe gets the mom's name.
Reply:If you and the father plan to be together the father. Make sure he is a good guy. If you plan to have more children (different man) Yours, so if you get married you can alter it. Like Lee Jones could be Lee Jones-Thomas like momy's name.
Reply:I believe the child automaticially will receive the fathers family name if you are married.. if not it will be the mother's name the child will get..you are married so the child will get the father's family name...xxx
Reply:the mom and her family use their name
Reply:Typically, you either give the child your last names together with a dash in the middle (i.e. Smith-Smythe), or you give the child the father's last name and, if you are really passionate about the mother's last name, use that as a first or middle name.





There's no right way, but there are some wrong ways. For example, giving the child the mother's last name makes people wonder if the kid is the mother's from another marriage or if they aren't married and the kid was born out of wedlock. While there isn't any stigma attached to that anymore, it does raise a lot of questions that you don't want your child to have to suffer through answering.





Secondly, whatever you choose to do, do not decide to give one child one last name and the other child the other last name. Again, you are just putting these children in awkward situations, where they will have to be asked why they don't have the same name as their brother/sister, etc. Plus, since your siblings are with each other for their entire lives, it's nice for them to have something like common names to bond them together.
Reply:Depends on the situation really and what you're comfortable with. For instance:





Mother will have full custody because the father hardly if at all, wants to be involved. The child should have the mother's last name.





The father chooses to be as involved as humanly possible in his child's life or is married to the father, you two need to sit down and make a choice between his, hers or hyphenating between the two last names, i.e. - Smith-Jones
Reply:If you're with the dad, the child should have his dad's last name, if you're no longer with him but the dad is going to play an active role in the child's life, I'd still say dad's last name, otherwise, if he's not going to be involved at all, your last name.





If you're married, and you didn't change your last name to your husbands, either the child still gets his father's last name, or you hypenate it : your last name - your husbands last name.





Those are the "rules" most people go by..
Reply:combine them together and make up a new last name


like larson and jast


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