What is your opinion of couples getting married and choosing a entirely new last name together?

I just read an article about couples who create a new last (when they marry) name sometimes out of combining their maiden names. What is your opinion on this?





I personally don't see why a woman should take her husbands name... or why a man should take his wife. If marriage truely is about equality and starting new lives together than surely new last names make sense.





I like the idea of both keeping their old last names as middle names too.

What is your opinion of couples getting married and choosing a entirely new last name together?
I've only known of one couple who created their new last name. He was a Steeves and she was a Lee and they created Steflee (I'm not entirely sure of the spelling; I typed it phonetically).





I started with 3 names, first, middle and last. I personally have a double last name now that I've married; it includes my original last name and my husband's last name - without a dash, just a space. I feel dashes are for children who acquire both parents' last names.





I have encountered situations where it is easier to have one last name though and I have "cards" and paperwork with 3 different last names, my original, my husband's and the combination of the 2. As long as you are not using it for illegal reasons there is no law against going by different names.





A friend semi-lost her original middle name as she no longer used it when she married. She used her maiden name as a middle name and used her husband's last name as her last name. I hate the idea of losing a name so my full name would be 4 different names: first, middle, last and my husband's last.





I think it would be cool to create a new name together but it just depends on the type of man you hook up with. It's a very personal issue.





PS: For 30+ years I thought I would never change my name but my husband and I had lived with one another for 11.5 years before we married so I figured nothing would really change so decided to change my name so there was something symbolic about the ceremony. As well his children have since come to live with us so it's really nice to all share our last name together.
Reply:You know, I always thought I would neve change my last name if I got married. Both my parents have passed away and theres only me and my brother left with our surname so I felt it an honour to keep it.


Since my fiance and I got engaged I have turned around and cant wait to take his name...I will always be part of my family and that can never be taken away from me, but I can see why we change names in marriage now....to start your own family.





I dont like the idea of taking another name altogether though, that to me is wrong and disrespectful to the family who are actually entitled to have that surname, it ain right
Reply:I think it's a personal choice that each individual gets to make for themselves. I have no problem with people changing their names when they want to. Personally, I would never change my name - I will die with the same name I was born with - but if someone else chooses to do it differently, it's fine with me too! It's a very, very personal choice.
Reply:Thats a novel idea. And if it works for the couple, then why not?





Im getting married in few weeks, and having problem deciding about my new surname. I currently still have my ex-husbands surname.





My fiance's culture %26amp; tradition is to take their father's first name as the next generations surname (eg: their own first name, son of, their fathers first name, following me?). So if I take his surname, I am in fact taking his fathers first name as my surname, but at least I will have the same surname as my husband. But in his culture, that basically makes me his sister..lol. So he suggested i take his first name as my new surname. But that would make me his daughter! And I certainly am not taking my own fathers first name as my surname.. too weird (and Im 41 years old!). I cant possibly suggest your idea above, as he would then be disrespecting his father and their culture. Decisions, decisions!
Reply:I don't have a problem with it at all. I think each couple should do what they think is right to make them happy. If they want to make up a new name...then so be it. If she takes his name...good for her. If he takes her name...more power to him.
Reply:I think people should be able to do whatever they want, as long as it's just. Choosing a new name is certainly just, it doesn't affect anyone but them, so who cares.





I didn't take my hubby's last name because I can barely pronounce it.
Reply:I'm just going to keep the name I was born with... I like the idea of us both keeping our identities even if we choose to marry.
Reply:I've been married twice and both times have taken my husbands' names because I liked them a lot better than my own maiden name.
Reply:just leave it.





its been this way for ages.





and new last names sounds g-a-y


you keep your last name or take his


its the family name... dr..
Reply:it's interesting...but that's what ties you to your family..or his..I wouldn't feel right getting a totally different last name i don't think..
Reply:way too confusing for families and schools and kids and society
Reply:look herehttp://www.couplescompany.com/Features/C...
Reply:Its their life and their choice to do what they want that's my opinion.





Its none of my business.
Reply:whatever floats there boat. who am i to judge?